Do we hafta?

Well, you don’t have to say you’re sorry anymore and if someone says “thank you” you can make it all about you and say “no problem” instead of addressing them by saying “your welcome”. But I digress.

Social media, internet and messaging apps have given us amazing communication advantages over snail-mail and landlines (for those under 25, a landline is a phone connected by wires). The possibilities to share love and hope, to stay connected with lifelong friends or make new friends is easy as a swipe and some quick thumb strokes.

But what is being spread around? A lot of it is what my mother spread on her garden to make the tomatoes grow and an awful lot of it is downright nasty.

And don’t be too hasty to hit “send”. Lifelong friends can be lost by the dreaded autocorrect or messaging the wrong “John”. So is it the mediums fault? Is it the availability of history’s most effective communication device stuffed into our back pocket? You know, your $1,000 pocket pal. Or is it that the apps that just invite snark and snarls with the ease of 280 characters of assassination?

I am sure the relative anonymity of the platforms elicit responses that would probably not be uttered face to face, but is there more to the nasty moving at 4G? I know that with millions of users, someone is sure to text something they should not even have thought about.

That person should have listened to their mother, “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all” or change what they are feeding on.

“What you feed grows, what you starve dies.”

But that’s not what we’re doing. We are clicking and retweeting and linking and creating artificial snit storms out of the nasty spread by people that make a handsome living dividing people. It is not the device or the apps, it’s the peeps.

Too many think the Golden rule is “Whoever has the most gold, rules” when it really is about the condition of your heart. What rules in your heart? Whatever is in there will surely come out of your mouth or tweet or text or blog or chat.

C’mon people now

Smile on your brother

Everybody get together

Try to love one another…Right now

The Young Bloods – Get Together

Outrage threads and the cancel culture are all the rage. Everybody has the right to their opinion right? But is it right to lash out at authorities, strangers, neighbors, friends and family? What happened to civil discourse?

Sure, there is a 1st amendment and speech should not be silenced by Government. But some speech should be self-silenced for the sake of unity. We are all in this together whether you like it or not. Try being a better listener and smile on your brother. That person you are interacting with is a miracle, simply in their being.

Try to love one another. Go ahead, try it.

Replace rude, crude, nude, exclusive, reductive, insulting, snarky with a little love. Love never comes back void.

Do we hafta?

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